Ingredients of Happy & Healthy Living

Ingredients of Happy & Healthy Living

Self Acceptance-
Healthy people choose to accept themselves unconditionally, rather than measure or rate themselves or try to prove themselves.
Risk Taking-
Emotionally healthy people choose to take risks and have a spirit of adventure in trying to do what they want to do, without being foolhardy.
Non-Utopian-
We are unlikely to get everything we want or to avoid everything we find painful. Healthy people do not waste time striving for the unattainable or for unrealistic perfection.
High Frustration Tolerance-
Healthy people recognize that there are only two sorts of problems they are likely to encounter: those they can do something about and those they can not. Once this discrimination has been made, the goal is to modify those obnoxious conditions we can change and to accept (or lump) those we can not change.
Self-Responsibility for Disturbance-
Rather than blame others, the world, or fate for their distress, healthy individuals accept a good deal of the responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
Self-Interest
Emotionally healthy people tend to put their own interests at least a little above the interests of others. They sacrifice themselves to some degree for those whom they care for, but not overwhelmingly or completely.
Social Interest
Most people choose to live in social groups, and to do so comfortlessly and happily, they would be wise to act morally, protect the rights of others, and aid in the survival of the society in which we live.
Self-Direction
We would do well to cooperate with others, but it would be better for us to assume primary responsibility for our own lives rather than to demand or need most of our support or nurturance from others.
Tolerance
It is helpful to allow humans (oneself and others) the right to wrong. It is not appropriate to like obnoxious behavior, but it is not necessary to damn oneself or others for acting badly.
Flexibility
Healthy individuals tend to be flexible thinkers- as opposed to having rigid, bigoted, or invariant rules, which tend to reduce happiness.
Acceptance of Uncertainty
We live in a fascinating world of probability and chance; absolute certainties probably do not exist. The healthy individual strives for a degree of order, but does not demand perfect certainty.
Commitment
Most people tend to be happier when vitally absorbed in something outside themselves. At least one strong creative interest and some important human involvement seem to provide structure for a happy daily existence.