Exiled mothers
Things that are NOT to be said to Exiled Mothers
1. Forget about it (your baby) and get on with your life. (My response is always, they are my life.)
2. Leave well enough alone, s/he has another family now.
3. You did the right thing.
4. You will destroy/disrupt her/his life if you make contact.
5. You would have been unable to provide for your child.
6. It was better for the baby to have two parents.
7. Let sleeping dogs lie.
8. S/he has her own family now.
9. But you’ve had other children and you should be happy now.
10. Why don’t you just let it go?
11. S/he was better off.
12. It’s water over the bridge now.
13. If s/he needs you s/he’ll come searching for you. You should’nt search for her/him!
14. You made the decision and you can’t change your mind.
15. But you’re not really herhis mother.
16. That was a long time ago. What’s the matter with you?
17. S/he’s turned out to be a nice person, so you should be grateful.
18. I don’t know how you could do it... I could never give up my child.
19. If you really love her/him you will give her up, otherwise you are selfish.
20. No one will ever want to marry you with someone else’s child.
21. There is no way you can work and care for your child properly. S/he will have to spend most of the day with a babysitter!!
22. Don’t get too attached to the baby.
23. You’re so lucky they send you pictures.
24. That’s so nice of them to let you see her/him.
25. Aren’t they afraid you’re going to take her/him back?
26. How could you give away such a beautiful child?
27. You’re confusing them by staying in their life.
28. What a wonderful gift you gave them (the adoptive parents).
29. Tell people to say that their child died.
30. You are not the father you are just the sperm donor. .
31. You have no right to be in his/her life anymore you have relinquished all rights as a parent, no wonder his/her family feels so threatened.
32. I know how you feel.
33. It’s not like you can’t have other children.
34. At least s/he will be loved now.
35. "Thank you for giving me your daughter." (Children are NOT gifts!!!!)Your joy was based upon my pain. Don’t thank me for that!
36. You should be grateful he/she even speaks to you.
37. When she’s crying on his birthday:"This is the price you pay for sin."
38. Get over it!
1. Forget about it (your baby) and get on with your life. (My response is always, they are my life.)
2. Leave well enough alone, s/he has another family now.
3. You did the right thing.
4. You will destroy/disrupt her/his life if you make contact.
5. You would have been unable to provide for your child.
6. It was better for the baby to have two parents.
7. Let sleeping dogs lie.
8. S/he has her own family now.
9. But you’ve had other children and you should be happy now.
10. Why don’t you just let it go?
11. S/he was better off.
12. It’s water over the bridge now.
13. If s/he needs you s/he’ll come searching for you. You should’nt search for her/him!
14. You made the decision and you can’t change your mind.
15. But you’re not really herhis mother.
16. That was a long time ago. What’s the matter with you?
17. S/he’s turned out to be a nice person, so you should be grateful.
18. I don’t know how you could do it... I could never give up my child.
19. If you really love her/him you will give her up, otherwise you are selfish.
20. No one will ever want to marry you with someone else’s child.
21. There is no way you can work and care for your child properly. S/he will have to spend most of the day with a babysitter!!
22. Don’t get too attached to the baby.
23. You’re so lucky they send you pictures.
24. That’s so nice of them to let you see her/him.
25. Aren’t they afraid you’re going to take her/him back?
26. How could you give away such a beautiful child?
27. You’re confusing them by staying in their life.
28. What a wonderful gift you gave them (the adoptive parents).
29. Tell people to say that their child died.
30. You are not the father you are just the sperm donor. .
31. You have no right to be in his/her life anymore you have relinquished all rights as a parent, no wonder his/her family feels so threatened.
32. I know how you feel.
33. It’s not like you can’t have other children.
34. At least s/he will be loved now.
35. "Thank you for giving me your daughter." (Children are NOT gifts!!!!)Your joy was based upon my pain. Don’t thank me for that!
36. You should be grateful he/she even speaks to you.
37. When she’s crying on his birthday:"This is the price you pay for sin."
38. Get over it!
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