Happy New Year

HAPPY NEW YEAR

TO MY GIRLS!!

 

Family is family:

You argue, you fight, you stop talking at times, but the truth is the love is always there. Love your family with all your heart because you will never know when they will be gone & you will never get to apologize or say goodbye.

Always remember what family stands for

F(orever) A(lways) M(ine), I L(ove) Y(ou).

I love my family

♥ ♥

What you should know: Targets, Grooming, Symbols & Intials

THE TARGETS AND GROOMING OF VICTIMS

(For more detailed and extensive grooming technique lists:
Warriors For Innocense: Grooming Articles )

There are many ways pedophiles and sexual predators target children:
1. Find activities in their area involving children – such as parties, park outings, sporting events
– They will watch the children, photograph the children, and attempt to have a BM or GM, which stands for “Boy Moment” and “Girl Moment”. This includes a conversation with the child, in which they could gain information to get to the child at a later date. However, this could also include just sitting back watching a particular child at play.
They appraise a child’s form as if it were that of a stripper in a club, and they write the moment down later for their friends – online and in real life – with added feelings of desire they had while exploring the child’s body with their eyes and filthy mind.
Please keep in mind that a child does not have to be nude or in a bathing suit to be visualized that way by these people. They are sick enough to imagine that for themselves.
2. Seek victims for themselves – either through the first option or by riding around looking for easy targets: children walking alone, children playing outside with no supervision, children wandering in a store with an inattentive parent… I don’t have to tell you the rest as “victim” says it all.
3. Seek victims for others – through option 1 as well as option 2. The information they attain through their Boy or Girl moment is not always kept to themselves, especially on Alice Day (The pedophile Girl Lover holiday) or NAMBLA day (North American Man-Boy Love Association). They get that information and share it to their pedophilia ring friends so that others will have a chance at acquiring a victim at a later date. The children they snare also often become shared sexual toys for themselves as well as others in their group.
Photos and stories of children are precious to these people and they will even pay money for them and more money for addresses and personal information of targets.
A lot of times, the person acquiring this information isn’t even a pedophile, themselves. They are just in it for the money from the sales of the photos and information that a pedophile and child predator can use to get their target.
Also remember that men are not the only perpetrators. Women make up a small percentage of sexual predators and abusers, but they DO exist. Even so far as to pimp out their own children for drugs or other selfish reasons.
I’m sure you’re wondering what can be done to spot or stop these people. You can’t very well go accusing every person you see in a public venue of being a sexual predator, nor should you be paranoid. Just careful.
It’s always better safe than sorry, but there is always common sense.
For instance: if you see a lone person with no children sitting nearby staring at the children at play, it’s a pretty good chance he’s there for less than honorable reasons. Particularly if he/she has a camera and no credentials to any claim of being a reporter – which should also be questioned and dealt with as any parent would by calling the editor of his paper to check his story should he say this.
If you are quite certain you’ve spotted someone with ulterior, twisted motives for watching your child or others at play, call the police immediately. Confrontation with a group of concerned parents also works. No violence is necessary as these people fear being caught at their private game and will quickly vacate the area. You also send a strong message that your children are protected and NOT easy targets!

• ALWAYS teach children not to talk to strangers.
• ALWAYS teach children to never give personal information to a stranger.
• ALWAYS teach children to never give the information of another child to a stranger.
• ALWAYS teach children to scream, “NO!” and “STRANGER!” very loudly if they encounter someone asking questions or trying to get them to come with them.
• ALWAYS teach children to use a secret or safe word or password and to NEVER tell ANYONE, not even their friends, what this word is.

You should also discuss police officers with your child. Teach them how to spot a real officer from someone posing as one: “No, sweety, I’m sorry but I don’t know the safe word. Your mommy/daddy was too hurt to tell me. You can trust me because I’m a police officer/fireman/doctor.” This is NOT okay!
They should tell a teacher or another parent right away. If the person is real, they will be happy to supply proper credentials and will be glad the child was so careful.
Remember, too, that uniforms are a dime a dozen – figuratively speaking. Official vehicles, however, are a bit harder to come by. It’s one thing for a person dressed in a “uniform” to tell the child the plain car is undercover, and another when the car actually has the decals, lights, and sirens.
** You should also remember that children want to please adults. They want praise and to feel special. They can either get this from home or from the stranger offering it to them if they would only come with them.
There are certain kinds of children predators go for. Remember that predators are patient. They could be watching a potential target for weeks, sometimes months, before striking. They want to be sure the target meets their criteria before they strike. Some of the markings of a perfect target are:

1. Always alone
2. Latch-key kid
3. Parents/Guardians are either hardly around the child or are always too busy to talk to/spend time with the child
4. Always dirty, hungry – suggests the child is not being cared for at home and the parents don’t pay attention to the child’s needs
5. Is always being reprimanded or admonished by parents or guardians – as if they can do no right or are not trusted
6. Is taught to keep secrets, or is in an environment – like abuse – where secrets are a normal thing
7. Has not been taught to not talk to strangers
8. Has identifying words or phrases on clothes or items (such as their name on backpack, clothes, jewelry)

Now, a lot of these things are also the markings of a child someone wants to care about; however, in the case of a sexual predator, these signs of neglect are the markings of a child whose abuse will go unnoticed or of a child who won’t be believed should they come forward.
There are what’s called “grooming techniques” that predators follow on kids like this. They include but are not limited to:

1. Being a confident to a lonely child
2. Constantly praising a child who is told otherwise at home
3. Being innocently affectionate to a child who is given no such attention at home – simple hugs, holding hands, pats on the head or back…. All things a parent or guardian would do that in no way suggests sex. That will come in time with longer back rubs, more involved hugging, and so forth.

**Anything a parent or guardian should be doing to fulfill a child’s need for love and affection, acceptance and worth but is NOT doing will be fulfilled by the predator in order to gain the child’s trust and compliance.
Later, when the perpetrator acts out his long awaited assault, he will blame the child for allowing him to get so close, blame the child for “flirting”, for “coming onto him”, for “asking for it” by accepting his “love”.
Every good thing the perpetrator did prior to his assault of the child becomes a tool to use against the child to make the child feel it was all his/her fault.
It is NEVER the fault of a child and every child should be taught that they are NEVER to blame if someone touches them inappropriately.
Even if a parent is one who isn’t in the child’s life very often – perhaps through work or divorce or separation – that parent should at the VERY LEAST teach their child that NO ONE has the right to touch their body and that if it ever happens, it is NEVER their fault.
EVERY parent or guardian MUST be sure their child understands that if they are ever touched or assaulted in any way, that child can tell their parent or guardian without fear of being ridiculed or punished. That it is not their fault and the parent or guardian WILL make it right, even if they may not be around for other things. Not being there for a soccer game does NOT mean they won’t be there if someone tries or does hurt their child. The child MUST know and FEEL this is the case.

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IMAGES and ABBREVIATIONS

These images were discovered by undercover volunteers on a website created by online sexual predators, where they instruct young girls and children that sex with older men is natural and their parents are lying to them and cannot be trusted because they are possessive and don’t want their children to feel good.
It has been speculated by some around the net in discussion about these symbols that these meanings and even existence of the symbols are untrue, but those statements have been made by pedophiles whose primary goal it is to corrupt exposed discoveries about them. These people have often used these symbols on their own websites, and the jewelry is no figment of the imagination!

• A heart within a heart, or “GLogo” “GirlLover” is used by pedophiles attracted to girls. The heart in a heart, to them, represents a adult/ female child relationship.
• A blue spiral-shaped triangle symbol, or “BLogo” “BoyLover”, symbolizes a boy (small triangle) surrounded by an older male (larger triangle)- and is meant to show adult/male child relationships.
• The butterfly CLogo a.k.a. “ChildLover” (commonly looks like four touching hearts) in pink/blue represents non-preferential gender pedophiles (girl or boy attracted, often both).
• The yin-yang looking circle is CGlogo, used in reference to the website, Common Ground, which was created as a place for both girl and boy attracted pedophiles to meet and sympathize with each other.
• The pink/blue triangles is “AmaroSymbol” is a variation of the CGLogo.

There are also abbreviations you should be aware of. The intention is to classify their interests for other pedophiles within their ring:

• AoA: Short for “age of attraction” meaning the age groups of children they are attracted to
• MAA: Minor attracted adult (used in reverse of the word “pedophile”, though it is the same and places the child as responsible for the abuse)
• AoC: Age of (legal) consent
• CL: ChildLover/pedophile
• GL: Girl Lover/Attracted to girls
• BL: BoyLover/Attracted to boys
• YF: Young Friend, used when speaking about a victim
• CP: Child Porn (Which could mean anything from photos of naked or half-naked children to photos of actual child rape/torture)

You’ll also see a good deal of “LGs” for little girls, “GMs” for a “girl moments”, which is time spent with a young girl (that can either be a passing second consisting of nothing more than a glance or a smile, or a lengthy visit with a girl); also “LB” for little boy or “BM” for boy moment in the same respect.
Then there are the chats, or message boards:

• CG: known as Common Ground, a place for pedophiles of both preferences. Common ground, while being the one that touts of being for “all” pedophiles is less used than either of the other forums:
• GC: GirlChat- for those that favor victimizing girls
• BC: BoyChat- for those that favor victimizing boys

Happy Thanksgiving Day

I am most thankful for my family

Where ever they are,

Near and far,

Here and past.

I am proud to be a link

In an amazing family chain.

Without all of whom I would not be 

Or be blessed this my amazing

Daughters.

Your Mayflower ancestors

1. William & Susanna White

2. Resolved White

3. Josiah White

4. Jonathon White

5. Daniel White

6. Sarah P. White

7. Anna Hammond

8. John Alfred Newkirk

9. Oliver Lee Newkirk

10. Mary Ella Newkirk-Cotter

11. Sharon Le Cotter-South

12. Lena Theresa South/Miller/Schultz/Williams

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The Green Thing

In the line at the store, the cashier told an older woman that she should bring her own grocery bags because plastic bags weren't good for the environment.

The woman apologized to him and explained, "We didn't have the green thing back in my day."

The clerk responded, "That's our problem today. Your generation did not care enough to save our environment."

He was right -- our generation didn't have the green thing in its day.

Back then, we returned milk bottles, soda bottles and beer bottles to the store. The store sent them back to the plant to be washed and sterilized and refilled, so it could use the same bottles over and over. So they really were recycled. But we didn't have the green thing back in our day.

We walked up stairs, because we didn't have an escalator in every store and office building. We walked to the grocery store and didn't climb into a 300-horsepower machine every time we had to go two blocks. But she was right. We didn't have the green thing in our day.

Back then, we washed the baby's diapers because we didn't have the throw-away kind. We dried clothes on a line, not in an energy gobbling machine burning up 220 volts -- wind and solar power really did dry the clothes. Kids got hand-me-down clothes from their brothers or sisters, not always brand-new clothing. But that old lady is right; we didn't have the green thing back in our day.

Back then, we had one TV, or radio, in the house -- not a TV in every room. And the TV had a small screen the size of a handkerchief (remember them?), not a screen the size of the state of Montana . In the kitchen, we blended and stirred by hand because we didn't have electric machines to do everything for us. When we packaged a fragile item to send in the mail, we used a wadded up old newspaper to cushion it, not Styrofoam or plastic bubble wrap. Back then, we didn't fire up an engine and burn gasoline just to cut the lawn. We used a push mower that ran on human power. We exercised by working so we didn't need to go to a health club to run on treadmills that operate on electricity. But she's right; we didn't have the green thing back then.

We drank from a fountain when we were thirsty instead of using a cup or a plastic bottle every time we had a drink of water. We refilled writing pens with ink instead of buying a new pen, and we replaced the razor blades in a razor instead of throwing away the whole razor just because the blade got dull. But we didn't have the green thing back then.

Back then, people took the streetcar or a bus and kids rode their bikes to school or walked instead of turning their moms into a 24-hour taxi service. We had one electrical outlet in a room, not an entire bank of sockets to power a dozen appliances. And we didn't need a computerized gadget to receive a signal beamed from satellites 2,000 miles out in space in order to find the nearest pizza joint.

But isn't it sad the current generation laments how wasteful we old folks were just because we didn't have the green thing back then?

Please forward this on to another selfish old person who needs a lesson in conservation from a smartass young person.

Remember: Don't make old People mad.

We don't like being old in the first place, so it doesn't take much to piss us off!
~ Anonymous



Failure

Next time you come across failure, you need not feel bad about it but take it as a challenge, because this is what failure means....

Failure doesn't mean - You are a failure, It means - You have not succeeded.

Failure doesn't mean - You accomplished nothing, It means - You have learned something.

Failure doesn't mean - That you have been a fool, It means - You had a lot of faith.

Failure doesn't mean - You've been disgraced, It means -You were willing to try.

Failure doesn't mean - You don't have it, It means - You have to do something in a different way.

Failure doesn't mean - You are inferior, It means - You are not perfect.

Failure doesn't mean - You've wasted your life, It means - You have a reason to start afresh.

Failure doesn't mean - You should give up, It means - You must try harder.

Failure doesn't mean - You'll never make it, It means - It will take a little longer.

More Lessons on life

There was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge
things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look
at a pear tree that was a great distance away.

The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in
summer, and the youngest son in the fall.

When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe
what they had seen.

The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son
said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise.

The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so
sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.

The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping
with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.

The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they
had each seen but only one season in the tree's life.

He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season,
and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come
from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.

If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring,
the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.


Moral:

Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.
Don't judge life by one difficult season.
Persevere through the difficult patches
and better times are sure to come some time or later

Reflections Of A Mother

 

•I gave you life, but cannot live it for you.
•I can teach you things, but I cannot make you learn.
•I can give you directions, but I cannot be there to lead you.
•I can allow you freedom, but I cannot account for it.
•I can take you to church, but I cannot make you believe.
•I can teach you right from wrong, but I cannot always decide for you.
•I can buy you beautiful clothes, but I cannot make you beautiful inside.
•I can offer you advice, but I cannot accept it for you.
•I can give you love, but I cannot force it upon you.
•I can teach you to share, but I cannot make you unselfish.
•I can teach you respect, but I cannot force you to show honor.
•I can advise you about friends, but cannot choose them for you.
•I can advise you about sex, but I cannot keep you pure.
•I can tell you the facts of life, but I can’t build your reputation.
•I can tell you about drinks, but I can’t say “no” for you.
•I can warn you about drugs but I can’t prevent you from using them.
•I can tell you about lofty goals, but I can’t achieve them for you.
•I can teach you about kindness, but I can’t force you to be gracious.
•I can warn you about sins, but I cannot make you moral.
•I can pray for you, but I cannot make you walk with The Lord & Lady.
•I can tell you how to live, but I cannot give you eternal life.
•I can love you with unconditional love all of my life and I will.

Just A Cat

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From time to time, people tell me, "lighten up, it's just a cat,"
or "that's a lot of money for just a Cat."

They don't understand the distance traveled, the time spent,
or the costs involved for "just a cat."

Some of my proudest moments have come about with "just a cat."

Many hours have passed and my only company was "just a cat,"
but I did not once feel slighted.

Some of my saddest moments have been brought about by
"just a cat," and in those days of darkness, the gentle touch
of "just a cat" gave me comfort and reason to overcome the day.

If you, too, think it's "just a cat," then you probably understand
phrases like "just a friend," "just a sunrise," or "just a promise."

"Just a cat" brings into my life the very essence of friendship,
trust, and pure unbridled joy.
"Just a cat" brings out the compassion and patience
that make me a better person.
Because of "just a cat" I will rise early and look
longingly to the future.

So for me and folks like me, it's not "just a cat"
but an embodiment of all the hopes and dreams of the future,
the fond memories of the past, and the pure joy of the moment.

"Just a cat" brings out what's good in me and diverts my thoughts
away from myself and the worries of the day.

I hope that someday they can understand that its' not "just a cat"
but the thing that gives me humanity and keeps me from being
"just a man" or "just a woman."

So the next time you hear the phrase "just a cat,"
just smile,
because they "just don't understand."

♥•*´¨♥¸.• ♥ ´*.*♥¸.•

The Story of the Butterfly

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours
as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole.
Then it stopped, as if it couldn't go further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon.
The butterfly emerged easily but
it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch it,
expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge
and expand enough to support the body,
Neither happened!
In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around.
It was never able to fly.

What the man in his kindness
and haste did not understand:
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required by the butterfly to get through the opening
was a way of forcing the fluid from the body
into the wings so that it would be ready
for flight once that was achieved.

Sometimes struggles are exactly
what we need in our lives.
Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us.
We will not be as strong as we could have been
and we would never fly.

Missing you/ Baby book covers

“Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.”

Enjoy

Strengths

Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry
... They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don’t take “no” for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.
Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.
~Unknown Author~

Decisions

You know, sometimes we make decisions about our life

and they feel like the right decision at the time.
No, they are the right decisions at the time.
But that doesn't mean they'll be right decisions forever,

and you know what I've realized as I've gotten older?
There isn't a definite right and wrong anyway.
Sometimes we do what seems wrong

but we have good reasons for doing it

so it's not so wrong after all.
♥

Promise me you'll remember

Promise me you'll always remember:

You're braver than you believe,

and stronger than you seem,

and smarter than you think.

 A. A. Milne

(Christoper Robin to Pooh)

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A Smile



A smile costs nothing, but gives much.
It enriches those who receive,
without ma...king poorer those who give.
It takes but a moment,
but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.



None is so rich or mighty
that he can get along without it.
A smile creates happiness in the home,
fosters good will in business,
and is the countersign of friendship.




It brings rest to the weary,
cheer to the discouraged,
sunshine to the sad,
and it is natures best antidote for trouble.



Yet it cannot be bought, begged,
borrowed, or stolen,
for it is something that is of no value
to anyone until it is given away.



Some people are too tired to give you a smile.
Give them one of yours,
as none needs a smile so much
as he who has no more to give.

I Forgive

I forgive the tears I was made to shed,
I forgive the pain and the disappointmen...ts,
I forgive the betrayals and the lies,
I forgive the slanders and the intrigues,
I forgive the hatred and persecution,
I forgive the blows that hurt me,
I forgive the wrecked dreams,
I forgive the stillborn hopes,
I forgive the hostility and jealousy,
I forgive the indifference and ill will,
I forgive the injustice carried out in the name of justice,
I forgive the anger and the cruelty,
I forgive the neglect and contempt,
I forgive the world and all its evils.

~Paulo Coelho,

from his book Aleph

Married or Not ... You Should Read This!

Married or not…

You should read this
“When I got home that night as my wife ser...ved dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."

By: Rene P Fuentes

I Wish You Enough

I wish you Enough!

Recently I overheard a Father and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure.

Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the Father said, 'I love you, and I wish you enough.'

The daughter replied, 'Dad, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Dad.'

They kissed and the daughter left. The Father walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, 'Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?'

'Yes, I have,' I replied. 'Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?'.

'I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be for my funeral,' he said.

'When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you enough.' May I ask what that means?'

He began to smile. 'That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.' He paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and he smiled even more. 'When we said, 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.' Then turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how grey the day may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

He then began to cry and walked away.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.

*Only if you wish send this to the people you will never forget and remember to send it back to the person who sent it to you. If you don't send it to anyone it may mean that you are in such a hurry that you have forgotten your friends.

Take Time To Live..

To Daughters, I wish you Enough!!!

Halloween

Happy Halloween

Our Beautful Tri!

Love Always,

Mommy & Emma

‎'Twas the night before Samhain

‎'Twas the night before Samhain and all through the house,
Not a creature was stirring except for my spouse.
The incense it burned in his Caldron so black,
For witchcraft and magic he'd a wondrous knack.
The circle was drawn with the athame of power, The guardians were called to each quarter tower.
The Lord and the Lady attended our rite,
In wonder and glory and power and might.
The dearly departed came as our guest,
To live once again after their rest.
We bid them goodbye with a tear in our eye,
Such a lovely presence of loved ones so nigh.
The candles danced in the flickering light.
With the Great Rite we bid them all a good night.
The guardians thanked, have all sped away.
The Lord and the Lady, thanks for the day.
The night before Samhain, Gods Bless this house.
A circle of wonder 'round me and my spouse.
(*Author Unknown*)

10 years ago today

It was 10 years ago today was the last time I got to carve pumpkins with my older 3 daughters.

Today Emma and I will be carving them. We already made more chocolate zuchinni bread.

Tryin not to be sad.

I miss you so much.

ISRR

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Who Can Register at ISRR?

Any adoptee, foster child or person separated from family who is eighteen years or older.

Birth parents, birth siblings and other birth relatives.

Adoptive parents, or legal guardians, of adoptees/ children who are still under the age of 18.

Legal guardians/representatives of persons with disabilities.

Genetic offspring of deceased adoptees or, if they are under 18, their legal parent or guardian.

Foster parents, and foster family members.

Family members of abducted, kidnapped or missing or children.

Genetic relatives, surrogates, sperm and egg donors where the date and place of birth is known

Supreme Court Ruling - November 25, 2003

Parental rights articles

I finally figured out why my 2nd appeal to the supreme court was denied. It was because of the Parker Jenson case. Come to find out that we had all the same "players" in our court case, well that is minus the court appointed drug addict that I was given as a defense attorney.

 Letter that was published in the newspaper in reguards to the story.



The Judge who took you away from me

I don't blame him as much as I blame the people who lied to him and made up testimony about me. And the drug addict attorney the courts assigned me.

I Love You Always!

January 8, 2002

January 8, 2002

The last time I saw the three of you.

 Ashleigh's Birthday present, you weren't a very happy little girl that day.

The letter they had you write to me. I've carried a copy of it in my wallet all these years.

Below is a letter written by the therapist who supervised our visits.

.... PRIVACY NOTICE:
Warning--any person and/or institution and/or Agent and/or Agency of any governmental structure including but not limited to the United States Federal Government also using or monitoring/using this website or any of its associated websites, you do NOT have my permission to utilize any of my profile information nor any of the content contained herein including, but not limited to my photos, and/ or the comments made about my photo's or any other "picture" art posted on my profile. You are hereby notified that you are strictly prohibited from disclosing, copying, distributing, disseminating, or taking any other action against me with regard to this profile and the contents herein. The foregoing prohibitions also apply to your employee(s), agent(s), student(s) or any personnel under your direction or control. The contents of this profile are private and legally privileged and confidential information, and the violation of my personal privacy is punishable by law.

October 30, 2001

October 30,2001

The first time I was allowed to see you three after you were taken on

July 16, 2001. The case records I requested show that I was a good mom and not the monster they made me out to be in court.

They also wanted the judge to believe that you never once asked about me or for me. Which I know was a load of bull.

.... PRIVACY NOTICE:
Warning--any person and/or institution and/or Agent and/or Agency of any governmental structure including but not limited to the United States Federal Government also using or monitoring/using this website or any of its associated websites, you do NOT have my permission to utilize any of my profile information nor any of the content contained herein including, but not limited to my photos, and/ or the comments made about my photo's or any other "picture" art posted on my profile. You are hereby notified that you are strictly prohibited from disclosing, copying, distributing, disseminating, or taking any other action against me with regard to this profile and the contents herein. The foregoing prohibitions also apply to your employee(s), agent(s), student(s) or any personnel under your direction or control. The contents of this profile are private and legally privileged and confidential information, and the violation of my personal privacy is punishable by law.

CPS's Dirty Tricks

WWW. CPSREFORM.COM
DSS Dirty Tricks


This is the "Dirty Tricks" section that isn't in the policy manual, but ought to be, on how to take and keep children. All DSS agents know them, use them, and pass them on as oral tradition. Their goal: Take as many children as possible. Their method: Dirty tricks.




Forget the law and regulations. They do! They use illegal police state tactics, and have all the power. They fear the law no more than Cornelius Vanderbilt, the great "robber baron" financier and railroad builder of the last century did. DSS has everyone, even judges and lawyers, scared of that power.




DSS doesn't seem to know the difference between actual abuse and minor harm, and takes thousands of children every year from families who have not abused them. Spanking, arguing, accidents, even praying, are now considered to be abuse or neglect. If you have intentionally abused your children, that is a different story, and you should get a lawyer to help you.




Most people simply do not believe that a government agency charged with helping families would use these police-state tactics. Believe it. Sometimes it takes months of being on the business end of their dirty tricks before a person finally realizes that the DSS agent is NOT their friend. This information will help you shorten that process of disbelief, and allow you to start protecting yourself before more damage is done to your family.




This material is not a substitute for good legal help. You need a good, dedicated lawyer in order to win. To have a chance against them, you and your lawyer must fight like your children's future depends on it. It does.




THIS MATERIAL IS NOT SPECIFIC LEGAL ADVICE FOR YOUR CASE. THEY ARE GENERAL PRINCIPLES, WHICH MAY NOT APPLY IN EVERY CASE. REVIEW IT WITH YOUR LAWYER BEFORE DECIDING HOW TO DEAL WITH THE DSS. I WILL NOT BE LIABLE FOR PROBLEMS YOU CAUSE BY NOT GETTING LEGAL ADVICE. YOU WOULD NOT FLY AN AIRPLANE WITH NO TRAINING. DON'T PRACTICE LAW, EITHER, WITHOUT TRAINING.







Dirty Trick No. One -The DSS will pretend to help you, when they are really gathering evidence to take your children. It's a new police state out there.




Dirty Trick No. Two -The DSS will try to get you to talk. SHUT UP!! Everything you say will be used against you in a court of law to take and keep your children.





Dirty Trick No. Three -DSS agents will abuse and traumatize your children themselves.




Dirty Trick No. Four -The DSS will try to get one parent to say incriminating things about the other, especially about domestic abuse.


Dirty Trick No. Five -
Play by the Rules - Lose Your Children.



Can This Be Happening in America?
If you foolishly think that DSS will play by the rules, then they will exploit your weakness, and take your children. If you play by the rules, they will exploit that, and take your children. But if you know how the game is played, you may have a chance to keep your children, or get them back after they are taken. The secret police can be outsmarted.

You will likely ask yourself, "How can this be happening in America?" It is happening, and it is because politicians have been willing to compromise liberty and family rights for support from radical Marxists and feminists who demanded these laws. While no one was watching, these people stole our American System of law and due process, and family rights, and liberty, and quietly substituted this new nightmare of a secret police system that you are now dealing with.

People assume that they will get justice in our courts. No longer. It's gone. The old America that respected family privacy is gone. A new Soviet-style system has taken its place. The sooner you acknowledge that horrible reality, the sooner you stop believing that the old system just HAS to give you justice, the sooner you can start fighting back in an effective manner.


Dirty Trick No. TwoThe DSS will try to get you to talk. SHUT UP!! Everything you say will be used against you in a court of law to take and keep your children.

SHUT UP!
Everything You Say Will be Used Against You in a Court of Law To Take Your Kids.

The two most important words to know in dealing with DSS agents are "SHUT UP". You have the right to remain silent, but they will try to get you to talk. Without your words, they have only what they can coerce out of your children.

"If You Talk, We May Go Easier On You"
The DSS agent will try to convince you to talk, because she only wants to "help" you, and they will make trouble for you if you don't. Don't believe them. Without your "disclosures", they can't destroy you. Put another way, with your disclosures, they CAN destroy you. Many people panic, feeling that they nothing to hide, so they talk. However, if you do, you may never see your children again. Why? Because these are trained interrogators, and you are no match for them.

What do they want to talk about? Anything, because you will eventually give them a tidbit about abuse here, a "disclosure" there, and then, out of your own mouth, they have their case against you. For example, if you admit to having trouble with your spouse, the DSS agent will force you to get a restraining order, and throw the "abuser" out. You will have to write out a statement under oath about the "abuse". Then, they have their case against your family, using your own words to prove there is "domestic violence".

If you talk, you will destroy your family by your own words. You may have merely complained about some minor thing, but you just made their case for them. You may never see your children again. So, SHUT UP! I cannot say it too forcefully, or enough.

Everything You Say Will be Twisted
Everything you say will show up in a report, in a twisted version you will not recognize. If you say you argue with your husband, the report will say, "Husband is verbally abusive". If you say that you discipline your children by spanking them, the report will say, "Parents physically abuse children." If you tell them you are depressed, the report will say, "Parent has mental health issues." If you say your spouse drinks, he will become an "alcoholic" in the report.

Then they will send you to their approved therapist to obtain further admissions, who they can count on to report to them every word you say, in violation of the patient confidentiality law. Don't go to therapy unless you are absolutely certain that the therapist despises DSS.

So what should you do? Act like a prisoner of war, which you are. Give them your name, rank and serial number, and nothing more.

Get a Lawyer!
The best thing you can do is get a lawyer, the right kind of lawyer, one who despises DSS, and then you can blame him for not talking. Tell the DSS agent that you are terribly sorry, that you really want to cooperate, but your lawyer has told you that all communication must go through him. Do not sign anything, particularly a "Service Plan", because it will have admissions galore in it. Just tell them that your lawyer has instructed you to not sign anything until he can review it.

You must do all this with a pleasant smile, and sound sorry that you can't "help" them. Blaming the lawyer is a wonderful thing. What can they do? Everyone knows lawyers are evil.

So, SHUT UP. If you know just those two words, you will have prevented about 90% of your potential future problems.


Dirty Trick No. ThreeDSS agents will abuse and traumatize your children themselves.
The DSS Agent -
Profile of a Real Abuser
If you have ever had your children yanked out of your home by a DSS agent, or have been shoved aside by one in your own home so that she could talk to your child privately, or suffered some other indignity at their hands, you must wonder - what kind of monsters are these people?

They are abusers, at least by their own definition. Genuine abuse exists, of course, and is defined in the law as doing severe physical harm. Real child abusers should be criminally prosecuted, and jailed. But more often than not, the DSS agent's definition of abuse is some psychic perversion of her own making, rather than real abuse. It often means you have religious or family beliefs that differ from those of the DSS agent. Recently, a petition for removal cited a mother praying with her child as harmful.

Most DSS agents actually believe that children should belong to the state, and that parents are evil.

Their motto could be:



MEN ARE ABUSERS.



WOMEN ARE VICTIMS.



CHILDREN ARE OURS.


This changes only if the woman will not become a victim for them, or if the man feminizes himself properly. If you play the victim (even a male victim), and you "need" them, they will work with you. If you keep your dignity and independence (even if you are a woman), then you must be crushed. Victims thrive in their perverse world. Independent people who do not need them have their children taken away.


Kid-less, Clueless
Many DSS agents do not have children of their own, and do not understand that families go through some bad patches once in a while, and just have to be given some room to work it out. The DSS agent, upon hearing from one of their police-state snitches, will swoop in like a vulture, and steal your children. No mercy. No explanations.

They will, without a pang of conscience, traumatize your children by prying their little fingers off your legs, as they wail and cry, and sticking them in their car, maybe never to be seen by you again. Or rip your children, screaming and panicked, from your arms, while sneering about what an abuser you are. Paul the Apostle nailed them, when he called such people, "senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless." (Romans 1:31).

Then, after ruining your whole life by taking your kids, DSS agents actually wonder why you don't warm up to them, and don't want to work with them. It's as though they had punched you in the nose, and then wonder why you bleed.


Children Must Be Taken From Families!
Most DSS agents are either classic Fascists or Marxists, which means they believe children belong to the state. You get to spawn, feed and clothe them, but then the state must educate them, train them to be wards of the state, and take them if you mess up. They believe the state is god, and support its domination in all spheres of life. They believe that rights derive from government authority, not from God, and so they resent all authority which does not acknowledge that. If you are religious, they will likely show a terrible bias against you because of it. They hate family autonomy, parental authority, home schoolers, and church authority.

This is not an exaggeration. Dr. Mary Jo Bane, Clinton's Assistant Secretary of Administration for Children and Families in the Department of Health and Human Services, said: "If we want to talk about equality of opportunity for children, then the fact that children are raised in families means there's no equality . . . In order to raise children with equality, we must take them away from families and communally raise them." Her federal department is in charge of the national effort to mold state DSS departments into their image.

That is what the communists believe. The following statement issued at a congress of Russian Communist Party educators in 1918 sounds like the credo of the modern DSS agent: "We must remove the children from the crude influence of their families. We must take them over and, to speak frankly, nationalize them." The Communist Manifesto, written by Karl Marx, called for the "abolition of the family." The DSS agents have read that book, and they are coming for your children.


Dirty Trick No. FourThe DSS will try to get one parent to say incriminating things about the other, especially about domestic abuse.
Divide and Conquer - Part 1
Getting One Parent to Rat Out the Other
One of the favorite DSS dirty tricks is to get one parent to say negative things about the other. This accomplishes many wonderful things from their viewpoint.

First Step- Get "Disclosures"
When DSS agents come to your door, they have one goal - to get "disclosures" from one parent about how she fears the other, or how he ‘abuses' her, or argues, or that there are some kind of family problems. Thus, the critical importance of the advice to SHUT UP, and to not say anything bad about your partner. If you do, it will be the beginning of the end, and these disclosures will form the basis for the DSS case against you, following like day after night.

Second Step - Get a Restraining Order
If one parent says something negative about the other one, then the DSS agent can force the talking parent to get a restraining order against the other one. The DSS agent will usually threaten: "If you don't get a restraining order against him, we will take (or keep) your children." Then the person is forced to choose - husband or children.

They will then drive the woman to court to get a restraining order, and even force her to commit perjury, by claiming she is suffering abuse when there is none. The court will almost always issue the order on coerced and perjured testimony. Never mind that forcing someone to testify falsely is a crime, called "suborning perjury". Courts know they do it, but no one stops them.

The results of this are many. The husband is thrown out of the house. They have added to their ‘abuse' statistics. To get the order, you have filled out a statement under oath claiming abuse, and they now have a basis for a case against your family.

Step Three - Get the Other Parent to Retaliate
With a restraining order now in hand, which "proves" abuse, and the "disclosures" the woman gives them, they now have proof that the other parent is unfit. Then, they will go to the other parent, usually the man, and work him over. They will tell him the woman said nasty things about him in an effort to get him to say of nasty things about her. Either in defense or retaliation, the man will often comply.

Now they can prove both parents unfit, and they almost own your family. Only one step remains. Get the children to make disclosures about the parents.

Dirty Trick No. FiveThe DSS will try to get your child to make ‘disclosures' about you, using manipulation, coercion, and fear.

Divide and Conquer - Part 2
Getting the Child to Rat Out the Parent
Whether or not they can get one parent to rat out the other, they will go to work on the children to make ‘disclosures' about the parents. This is one of their dirtiest of tricks, and one of the many reasons they are themselves are abusers. They will manipulate your frightened children into saying almost anything that they want to hear.

They have several tactics, described below:

Every Child Needs Therapy
First and foremost, EVERY child they steal goes into therapy, not to help the child, but to obtain disclosures against you. Obviously, every child they take cannot be mentally ill, but that does not matter- therapy is the order of the day. They must get the admissions from the child to make the case against you and prove you are unfit.


If the "therapist" can obtain any scrap of information from the child about you that may hint of abuse, she will breathlessly run to the DSS and excitedly tell the DSS agent. High fives all around.
They now have a case!
The "therapists" they use are often unlicenced, and work for huge bloated "therapy mills", which are little more than arms of the DSS. For example, South Bay Mental Health Associates has eight offices, each of them in a city with a DSS office. Four of the eight are in the same building as a DSS office! The other four are next door or nearby. The unlicenced "therapists" make illegal medical and clinical diagnoses of your child (even if the child's own doctor has made a completely different diagnosis), to prove there has been abuse.

Prisoner of War Tactics
The tactics used by these fake therapists are akin to those used by interrogators in war. The strategies work with children, because they are frightened, traumatized, taken out of the security of their home, and are often being abused by their foster parents. Under these circumstances, your own children may say the most amazing and untrue things about you after a few months in captivity.
In Soviet Russia, prisoners would eventually admit to most anything,
One technique they use is repeatedly suggesting to the child that mommy and daddy abused them. They implant the idea in the frightened child's head until the child "recovers memories" of the past abuse. They repeatedly ask, "Did Daddy touch you there?" If the answer is no, they ask the same question more insistently, use doll therapy, or find some other way to make the child feel "comfortable" about making admissions.
These sessions can go on weekly for months, or even a year. After that amount of coercion, it is not surprising that they get admissions.
They always believe a child's
" disclosures", but never his denials.

The process only goes one way, like a ratchet. If they can get a disclosure using coercion, manipulation, fear, emotional or physical abuse, appeal to pleasing the captors, or anything else short of torture, that admission becomes the "truth". It can now never be denied, even if the child repeatedly recants it. Then they go to work to get the child to say more, which will also become more "truth" which can never be denied. They always believe a child's disclosures, but never his denials.


The best thing you can do to counter this dirty trick is to make sure, in advance, that your child knows that you only talk to mommy and daddy about things going on in the family, never outsiders. If your children have the inner strength to resist their predatory tactics, and don't make disclosures to the interrogators, you will likely get them back.


Dirty Trick No. SixThe DSS will try to make sure you get a lawyer who will work with them, not against them.

Your Enemy, the Lawyer -
Don't Get One of Theirs
Not only will the DSS try to divide and conquer you, your partner, and your children, but they will try to compromise your lawyer, as well. This is especially true if each partner has a court appointed lawyer, along with a different one for the kids.

Yukking it Up With DSS
A lot of the lawyers who rely on DSS for their work are in cahoots with them, but you may not know it until it is too late. Some agree with their agenda, and others are just too timid to stand up to them.

How do you tell if you have the right lawyer? You have the wrong one if she tells you to cooperate with DSS! You have the wrong one if you see her laughing it up with the DSS lawyer or social workers.

One lawyer is so reliable for DSS, he has his own key to the local DSS office!

The right lawyer will have courage, will believe in the rights of the individual against the state, will respect constitutional restraint on government, will hate the police-state tactics of the DSS, will affirm parental and family authority against the state, will stand up to every unlawful and biased ruling of a judge without fear, and will hate the DSS with a gut-level hatred because it respects none of these things.

More Divide and Conquer
Another ploy by DSS is to have two separate lawyers for each spouse, who often work against each other. Although your partner is sometimes unfortunately your adversary, your real enemy is always DSS. However, the lawyers often work at odds with each other, attacking the other partner, rather than working to get the kids back from DSS together.

Dirty Trick No. SevenAfter DSS takes your children, the court must give you a hearing within 72 hours. They rarely do. At the hearing, DSS will rarely meet the legal standard for keeping custody of your children, but will do so anyway.

The "72 Hour Hearing"
A Cruel Mockery by DSS
If DSS takes your children, the law requires the court to schedule a hearing within 72 hours, where you can prove that they should give your children back. That 72 hours includes weekends, so if they snatch them late Friday (their favorite time, because the court isn't open), they technically must give you a hearing late Monday. They don't.

The DSS Dirty Tricks machine usually goes into overdrive at these hearings, because if you win, they have to give your children back to you.

72 Hours or 72 Days
Their first tactic is to delay the hearing as long as possible, to get the disclosures from you and your children they need to put on their case. Courts accommodate, and often extend the hearing past the date required by law. The bright side of this illegal dirty trick is that you, too, get more time to prepare.

Waive the 72 Hour Hearing, and
Wave Goodbye to Your Children
Many DSS lawyers will urge you to waive the 72 hour hearing. DO NOT DO IT, unless you perpetrated serious abuse. You must go on record as opposing the DSS taking your kids. If you do not, it can be used against you later, and you give up the only chance you will have for a full year to try to get your kids back.

The divide and conquer strategy works very well for the DSS at these hearings. If they can get the spouses and their lawyers to go at each other at this early stage, instead of fighting the REAL enemy (DSS), they easily win. Tell your lawyer to fight in collaboration with the other lawyers, so your kids may come home.

The Judge Will Ignore The Actual
Legal Standard
The legal standard for DSS keeping your children . The DSS usually fails to prove their case, but the Judge will let them keep your children anyway.
To keep custody of your children, the DSS must prove that:

1. They have made "reasonable efforts" to prevent or eliminate the need for removal of a child from the home prior to stealing the child. They rarely do.
2. The child is "suffering from serious abuse or neglect or is in immediate danger of serious abuse or neglect." This means wounds, broken bones, burns, starvation, or the like. It does not mean spanking or psychic harm.
3. Removal continues to be "necessary to protect the child from serious abuse or neglect".

Dirty Trick No. EightThe DSS agent will try to get into your home to do an assessment, but will use the evidence gathered there against you to take your children.

"We Just Need to Come in to Do Our Assessment"
DSS agents want to come in to your house many times during this ordeal, for any number of reasons. It is hard to keep them out, but try your best. They want evidence to use against you, no matter what excuse they give.

The DSS agents will say that they just want to come in for an ‘assessment', or to get some basic information from you, or to see the condition of your home. However, what they really want is to separate your children from you and get "disclosures" of abuse, to get admissions from one parent about the other, to find defects in your housekeeping, or the like. Later visits will have the same purpose, though they will give other reasons.

Make ‘Em Get A Warrant
Should you let them in? Can you even keep them out? The answer is: Maybe. The law as written allows them to come in without a warrant, but the Constitution, which is over the law, does not. However, the issue has not been legally tested in our state, to my knowledge. In the Western States, the Federal 9th Circuit Court of Appeals has ruled that DSS agents must have a warrant to enter when it is not an emergency. That has not happened in our area yet.

Every subject has a right to be secure from all unreasonable searches, and seizures, of his person, his houses, his papers, and all his possessions. All warrants, therefore, are contrary to this right, if the cause or foundation for them be not previously supported by oath or affirmation; and if the order in the warrant to a civil officer, to make search in suspected places, or to arrest one or more suspected persons, or to seize their property, be not accompanied with a special designation of the persons or objects of search, arrest, or seizure: and no warrant ought to be issued but in cases, and with the formalities prescribed by the laws.

This Article says they cannot come in or take your children without a warrant. However, courts usually ignore the clear wording of our Constitution, and turn a blind eye to this outrageous wrong. Their excuse is that the law does not apply because the "best interest of the children" overrides the law.

My recommendation: Stand on your rights, and politely, but firmly, demand a warrant before letting them in. Talk to your lawyer before doing this, because it is risky, even though it is right. If there is a policeman with a gun, who will not back off when confronted with the Constitutional requirement to get a warrant, you better let him in, and live to fight another day.

Dirty Trick No. NineThe DSS has a network of "mandated reporters" everywhere your child is, to snitch on you. All helping professionals are required to report you to DSS if they suspect abuse; The people you think will help you will now betray you.

Everyone is a Snitch-
Who Can You Talk To?
One of the scariest DSS dirty tricks is a vast Soviet Style snitch network which they have set up all over the state, with the force of law, to report you to the authorities. This network is made up of ALL teachers, doctors, nurses, counselors, therapists, police officers, dentists, chiropractors, day care workers, school counselors, etc. These people must report any suspected "abuse", or be prosecuted and fined. They cannot be prosecuted for making a false report, unless it is frivolous.

All these people, called "mandated reporters", have been endlessly taught the importance of reporting. All their professional seminars, their whole culture, demands that they report, just in case. When in doubt, they report. Then, if there really is abuse, they won't get in trouble. Thus, the DSS has a seamless web of snoops and spies just about everywhere a child is likely to be.

Even Your Child is a Snitch
Even worse, you are no longer safe from the DSS police in your own home. They have also found a way to turn your own child against you. At the government (public) school, children are given the DSS phone number, and are taught to report things they see in the home to the authorities, like corporal punishment, drug use, and even family arguments They break down children's respect for their parents, and foster a submission to the state.

What they don't tell a child is that if he reports his parents to DSS, he may destroy his whole family forever. The child may be mad about getting disciplined, so he'll get even by siccing DSS on them. Then, they take that child, and all the other ones, too, just in case. DSS didn't tell the child that it would happen that way, but now it's too late, just like Judas.

You Thought You Were Getting Help
When you go to a counselor to get help, when you take Johnny to the emergency room if he falls off his bike, or when you talk to his school counselor, watch out. You are now a suspect. The person to whom you turned for help is likely your enemy, and may turn you in. You may go for help, and end up losing your kids. You need to think differently about how to get help. Of course, never ask the DSS for help. Many people do, and lose their kids.
Where Can You Go?
Who can you go to? Only two types of professionals cannot be made to divulge what you tell them, clergy and lawyers. Both are a little shaky, either due to fear of DSS, or because they agree with the doctrine of state control of families.

Clergy have a privilege not to report, or to testify about what you say to them. Lawyers have an even more ironclad privilege, called "attorney-client privilege". Many lawyers, however, wanting to curry favor with DSS, will actually betray their client's confidences. So, find a clergyman or a lawyer who hates DSS, and tell him your problems. That clergyman or lawyer may be able to help you find a medical professional who hates DSS enough to not report if your child has been hurt.

Solve Half of Your Snitch Problem
With This One Action
The other thing you MUST do is get your children out of the government (public) school. It is the major pipeline from DSS to your child. DSS takes children right out of school when they can coerce them into making "disclosures", and they don't come home that day. Sometimes DSS doesn't even tell the parents, and when mom comes to pick up the child at the bus stop, there is no child, and no one knows why. Needless to say, the parents are frantic, until they finally figure out what happened.

If you send your kids to a government school, you are sending them to your enemy to be educated. They will be taught to hate you and your values, and to sell you out. Get them out, before it's too late. This is the principle of "staying under the radar", which we review in detail in the "Fight Back" section.
Dirty Trick No. Ten
The More They Take, the More They Make
A recent federal law actually establishes adoption quotas for each state, with bonuses for each child adopted out, and even more money for every child adopted exceeding the quota. ‘Special needs' children earn even more, both during the ‘lease' period and at the final ‘sale'. A researcher in one state found that a severely needy child can earn its masters up to $250,000 a year in government money. We are still awaiting the figures for the Commonwealth, but the state budget for the DSS alone is over half a billion dollars, not including the money for lots of outside contractors and medical care.

If They Can Keep the Children Long Enough,
They Must Be Adopted
Keeping the children for a year is important, because, under a new law, they must adopt them out after 15 months!. So, if DSS can keep your children a little over a year, they can sell them for some significant cash. They will drag out the case as long as possible to manipulate this outcome. Yes, they will literally SELL your children because they themselves have kept them too long. You should see, as I have, the DSS agents having warm fuzzies over this, while the parents bitterly weep.

If you finally manage to get your case to trial, that is the first time you or your lawyer will have to tell your story to a judge. However, the fact that DSS has kept your children for a year can actually be used against you at the trial! The DSS will argue that it would traumatize the children to take them from their foster home, because they have now bonded with the foster parents. In their warped view, it would traumatize them to send them back to the parents, even though it didn't bother them to rip your baby out of your arms a year before.
actually makes bonding with the foster parents a basis for terminating parental rights. They take the children, delay the trial, and then use that as a reason why they need to keep them.





Dirty Trick No. Eleven
The DSS will try to get you to sign a "service plan" that will incriminate you, and help them get information to make their case against you.

Service Plans - "Sign Ze Papers, Or Else"
After the DSS takes your child, snoops around your house, and gets you to incriminate yourself, you are then ready for one of their next dirty tricks - the so-called "Service Plan".

This 7 to 10 page document is a cut-and-paste monstrosity that serves the purposes of the DSS: That is, to get you to give evidence against yourself, and to remold you into embracing big brother through therapy and re-education. It keeps you occupied with the hope that you will get your children back, while it dampens your anger against the nice folks who kidnapped them.

Don't sign it, unless your lawyer advises you to do so. If you sign it, you are admitting to your ‘crimes' (sometimes literally), committing yourself to therapy, and possibly ensuring that you will never see your kids again. The DSS agent will exert much pressure to have you sign this plan. Don't do it, despite their threats that not cooperating will make it worse for you, and prolong getting your kids back.

There are many other good reasons to not sign their plan. For example, many plans require attendance at a batterers program. If you go to such a program, you are given two bad options: 1) Admit you are a batterer, and then you will not get your kids back; Or 2) Deny you are a batterer, then you are a "batterer in denial", and you will not get your kids back. Either way, you lose.

Every service plan requires therapy, the sacred DSS sacrament, and it must be from a therapist of their choice, so that DSS can have access to all the information to help them make their case against you. Women are often sentenced to attend group victim therapy, where everyone is supposed to sit around and whine about their victimhood, and affirm everyone else's. No one is allowed to get past her victimhood, or there would be no need for them. Statements made at these victim groups are immediately reported to the secret police at DSS.

The best tactic to finesse DSS pressure to sign their service plan, is to tell them that you must show it to your lawyer, and can't sign it without his approval. This can create substantial delay. Then, actually do as many of the activities required by the plan, as possible, without telling them you are doing so. Get your own therapist who hates DSS, and get a psychological evaluation, and a glowing report about your therapy sessions. Go to a parenting class. Get urine screens, if that is on it. Do whatever activities on the plan that will not cause either a report to be made to DSS, or cause a bad result later.

Then, when you go to court for a hearing, and the DSS says you will not cooperate, you can pull out all the reports and evidence that shows that you did everything they required, and aren't they going to be embarrassed!
If DSS takes your children, they will keep them a year, and try to adopt them out - They earn up to hundreds of thousands of dollars per year per child taken, and keep a lot of cronies in work.

Follow the Money -
There's Gold in Them Thar' Kids
If DSS has stolen your children, you are probably tormented, thinking, "Why? Why?", anguishing day after sleepless night over why this has all happened. As with many things in life, when there seems to be no rational basis for what has happened - follow the money.

In this case, the DSS can make a ton of money by ‘leasing' out your child to a foster home for a year, and then ‘selling' (adopting out) the child at the end of the ‘lease'. While the child is in their captivity, they can leverage lots of state and federal cash from numerous programs. If DSS can get you to incriminate yourself, or manipulate your child into making false disclosures, they can get a court to terminate your parental rights, and then adopt the child out, for more big bucks.The DSS will try to get your child to make ‘disclosures' about you, using manipulation, coercion, and fear.




Dirty Trick No. Six -The DSS will try to make sure you get a lawyer who will work with them, not against them.




Dirty Trick No. Seven -After DSS takes your children, the court must give you a hearing within 72 hours. They rarely do. At the hearing, DSS will rarely meet the legal standard for keeping custody of your children, but will do so anyway.




Dirty Trick No. Eight -The DSS agent will try to get into your home to do an assessment, but will use the evidence gathered there against you to take your children.




Dirty Trick No. Nine -The DSS has a network of "mandated reporters" everywhere your child is, to snitch on you. All helping professionals are required to report you to DSS if they suspect abuse; The people you think will help you will now betray you.




Dirty Trick No. Ten -If DSS takes your children, they will keep them a year, and try to adopt them out - They earn up to hundreds of thousands of dollars per year per child taken, and keep a lot of cronies in work.

Dirty Trick No. Eleven -The DSS will try to get you to sign a "service plan" that will incriminate you, and help them get information to make their case against you.




Dirty Trick No. Twelve -The DSS will withhold key records that you need to make your case, even though they are required by law to give them to you.




Dirty Trick No. Thirteen -The DSS allows you to challenge their findings of abuse - But their own agents do the review, and call it a "Fair Hearing".




Dirty Trick No. Fourteen -The DSS will rarely let you visit your children, and will not let you show affection when you do.




Dirty Trick No. Fifteen -Although the law requires the DSS to place your children with relatives, if available, they will try to stop it.




Dirty Trick No. Sixteen -The DSS will keep you from any legal challenge to their custody of your children for a year or more.



Dirty Trick No. Seventeen -If the DSS can't get you for abuse or neglect, it will get you for not stopping abuse and neglect by your partner i.e., "Safety issues".




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Conclusion
Dirty Trick No. OneThe DSS will pretend to help you, when they are really gathering evidence to take your children. It's a new police state out there.

They Want Your Kids
The first DSS dirty trick is making you think they would NEVER use dirty tricks to take your children. Beneath the nice exterior of your friendly DSS agent is a person whose job is to take children - your children. DSS takes children from about 25% of the families for which they provide services, and that percentage is on the increase.

They Only Want to "Help" You
DSS is there to help you, right? Wrong. Former Speaker of the House Jim Wright, a Texan, was a master at "helping" his opponents. He would say, when he was trying to twist the arms of his colleagues, "Ah only want to Hep yew." When he was "heppin' yew", that's when you had to be the most careful. It is the same with the DSS.

Some DSS agents want to help families, and some don't. However, the system itself rarely does. Most DSS agents don't know or respect the restrictions in the law against taking children, and no one holds them accountable. Even judges cannot reign them in. So they do as they please, not what the law allows or requires. They have managed to form their own secret police, just like in Communist countries.

Many people ask the DSS for "voluntary services", only to find out too late that asking for help brings the whole DSS down on them. That is literally asking to have your children taken.

The Law Requires Them to Try to Unite Families
The law says that DSS must try to unite families, not destroy them. Example: Massachusetts General Laws, Chapter 119, Section 1 says: "It is hereby declared to be the policy of this Commonwealth to direct its efforts, first, to the strengthening and encouragement of family life for the protection and care of children . . ." They talk about help, and stabilizing intact families, and therapy, but it's all a cruel lie. They really want to take your kids. So, their first dirty trick is to say they want to help you. Don't fall for it. They will offer "services", and home visits, and nice chats about your life and the bad things your spouse did. Don't do it. Shut up. They do not want to help you. Be pleasant, but firm. As explained in the next section, if you talk, or accept their ‘services', you may never see your children again..